This is also true for work, it’s a basic fact.
Newsflash: people are naturally attracted to beautiful people, although many already know this. Paige Ewald (@paigeeeeewald) from TikTok says that too many people on dating apps worry too much about the first messages. According to Paige Ewald, if the person you’re sending a message to thinks you’re cute, it doesn’t matter what you say.
She even gave an example of a cute friend of hers who hit on a guy, found his address and then sent him a message saying she was on her way to his house. She said none of the guys cared that her friend was hot. But some people, like comedian Michelle Wolf, say it’s to do with biology and men’s age. So basically, men are more likely to be approached just because someone has shown interest in them.Others say it’s just a nice privilege. (Via)
Double standards
Ewald explained that because her friend was considered very attractive, she always got away with the first direct message.”If a girl not as incredibly beautiful as her had done it, it would have been the end of the world,” she said.”If a man not as amazing had done it, it would have been the end of the world. But she always gets away with it because she’s beautiful. Everyone’s stressed thinking, ‘How do I get into this guy’s digital messages? How do I get into this girl’s texts?’
He reckons people think too much. Best thing to do is send a message; if the person finds you attractive, it doesn’t matter what you say.
I mean, extra points if it’s funny. But let’s be real, most people respond to the ones they like, not the ones they think are more thoughtful, well-written or clever. At the end of the day, people are mostly interested in how you look.
There are loads of studies online that say being good looking has its perks.
You’ll find it easier to get into relationships, and you might even get more job opportunities. Plus, if you’ve got loads of followers on social media, you might attract attention.If someone like Paul Giamatti sang “M to the B” on TikTok, would he get the same number of views as Bella Poarch? (Via) (Via) (Via) (Via)
But then, some people say that beauty isn’t everything, and that’s a real shame. All that attention and focus on beauty means you’re constantly being judged, physically and aesthetically.The Norwegian SciTech Institute says that attractive people tend to take more risks when they’re young, and that can lead to mental health problems later on. (Via) (Via)
And if you’re addicted to being attractive, you might not develop other skills, which can be a problem as you get older and the first wrinkles start to show.It’s almost like people get addicted to attention, and that can lead to mental health issues when beauty starts to fade. (Via) (Via) (Via)
The commenters weren’t surprised.
People who responded to Ewald’s video said it wasn’t important and didn’t deserve to be published: “Rule number one is always be sexy.
“Another said he couldn’t believe beautiful women were writing to him on dating apps, saying “I think they’re robots”.
Another said it comes down to attractiveness and that “yes, there is a privilege in being beautiful. Whether you’re creepy or romantic depends on how beautiful you are”.
Another said that the privilege of being beautiful has a positive effect on careers and that “it’s a job too. It is a matter of life”.
Another said: “That’s the most obvious thing I’ve ever heard.